An only child clearly has the advantage of always being Mom and Dad's favorite!
I always imagined that I would have two children....a boy and a girl, of course. I also knew that I wanted to have my children close together in age. I am ten years older than my one sister and twenty one years older than my other sister. I was an only child until the age of ten and wanted a sibling more than anything in the world. I also knew I didn't want to be like my mom who had my sister at the
We were married for three years when Brady was born. March 19, 2003. The absolute best day of my life. It was an easy pregnancy...other than an emergency c-section. Our life would forever be changed.
We wanted to wait two years before trying to have another child. Although I wanted my children close in age...I also knew that my type A personality might not be able to handle it! When Brady was two, we were in the middle of Eric changing jobs and trying to sell our house. It was a stressful time and it just didn't feel like the right time. Again, I like all lights to be on green and everything in order. Looking back, I would have done things differently. I mean, is there ever a perfect time?
Brady was three when we found out a week before Christmas that we were expecting. With our first pregnacy....we waited three months before telling anyone (except our parents) that we were having a baby. Everything was so normal that first time around... we decided to share our good news on Christmas day that we were expecting again...what gift could be better than that?!
I miscarried at ten weeks. I ended up having a d & e. It was a very sad time...but having Brady to take care of made that time a little easier to get through. My doctor said that most women get pregnant pretty easily after this kind of surgery. We waited about six months before trying again. (Again, looking back, I would have done things differently and started trying sooner) I was 37yrs old.
Getting pregnant again has never happened for us. We've talked about adoption. It seems like a huge mountain at this stage in our life. I am 40. Brady is 7 1/2. It also feels like we would be doing it mostly at this point to give Brady a sibling. I think there are plusses and minuses to every situation. We are able to give Brady so much time and attention. I believe that raising a child to be independent, kind, confident, caring and happy has everything to do with parenting and less to do with family size. Brady has only ever mentioned not having any brothers or sisters once. We explained to him that it might not be in God's plan for us. He has never said that he "wishes" he had a brother or a sister. I hope that Brady doesn't ever feel like he is "missing" out. I guess you can't really miss what you don't know. That is probably true for Eric and I as well. We can only imagine how our life would be different with a larger family...but certainly not any better than it already is.
Would I have ever chosen to have just one child? No. Have I accepted the way things are? Most days I have! I like to focus on what I do have that's positive in my life right here in front of me. We are truly blessed. Being a wife to Eric and a mom to Brady are the absolute greatest pleasures of my life.
Linking up with Jen at Denton Sanatorium.
If you live in a cave and haven't seen her blog...
go check it out! She has an awesome blog &
a beautiful family!